I really like this, Carole as it answers the question I asked at the end of my piece about Lucy (the horse who lost her stablemate, Rocky). But in trying to imagine what you just described (great description) I found I couldn’t relate - that what you described was not how I perceive or process grief. SO interesting. Obviously there is no one right way to come to terms with or process emotions, so now I am even more curious to hear what others will say.
That’s what’s so compelling for me about holding space with loss and grief. Each time I work with someone it’s different because my work molds to how that person experiences their loss. How do they flow? What are they blocking? I’m there, along on their ride and giving ear and heart to their questions and what they need. They may find it, they may not, that’s not the goal. The point is to listen and to be heard and in that process to listen to ourselves and, as Rainer Maria Rilke wrote “someday live into the answers”
I so appreciate when something mundane dispenses greater wisdom. It's like that adage: how you do the small things is how you do the big things.
I think it's also why I appreciate the pairing of two seemingly disparate concepts -- how is a funnel like holding space for someone, as you've asked here.
Or, what can a funnel teach me about connecting with my teenagers? Or, how can I channel the funnel at different points in my day?
It’s so interesting, I am seeing what’s in the bowl and how it flows out and you’ve now got me seeing the funnel and vessel and how it flows in.
It’s worth noting that the wrong kind of funnel mucks things up. We have one that’s squared on the top, but that’s for dry stuff. The circular one is best for the liquid because it swirls. So now I’m thinking about the different physics of feelings.
I really like this, Carole as it answers the question I asked at the end of my piece about Lucy (the horse who lost her stablemate, Rocky). But in trying to imagine what you just described (great description) I found I couldn’t relate - that what you described was not how I perceive or process grief. SO interesting. Obviously there is no one right way to come to terms with or process emotions, so now I am even more curious to hear what others will say.
That’s what’s so compelling for me about holding space with loss and grief. Each time I work with someone it’s different because my work molds to how that person experiences their loss. How do they flow? What are they blocking? I’m there, along on their ride and giving ear and heart to their questions and what they need. They may find it, they may not, that’s not the goal. The point is to listen and to be heard and in that process to listen to ourselves and, as Rainer Maria Rilke wrote “someday live into the answers”
Love that Rilke quote.
I so appreciate when something mundane dispenses greater wisdom. It's like that adage: how you do the small things is how you do the big things.
I think it's also why I appreciate the pairing of two seemingly disparate concepts -- how is a funnel like holding space for someone, as you've asked here.
Or, what can a funnel teach me about connecting with my teenagers? Or, how can I channel the funnel at different points in my day?
Thank you for the inspiration.
It’s so interesting, I am seeing what’s in the bowl and how it flows out and you’ve now got me seeing the funnel and vessel and how it flows in.
It’s worth noting that the wrong kind of funnel mucks things up. We have one that’s squared on the top, but that’s for dry stuff. The circular one is best for the liquid because it swirls. So now I’m thinking about the different physics of feelings.
I love where this communicating thing takes us!