Think Back, Reach Out

Let them know you remember

Today, just a very brief thought, and perhaps an action item.

Think back over the last 3 months. The last 6 months. The last 9 months.

Now, who do you know who has had someone close to them die in that period of time? After the first flood of cards and condolences, flowers and “let me know if there’s anything I can do”s the world as We know it goes back to normal. For those in Loss and Grief it doesn’t, can’t.

Now is the time to reach out to that person. Let them know that you are thinking of them, that you remember their person is gone. A text, a handwritten note (extra special, trust me), a quick call or voice message will do just fine. The only goal is letting them know you remember, and you’re thinking of them.

Suggestions:

You’re on my mind. It’s been a while, but I’m sure life still feels strange. Are you being gentle with yourself? If you want to talk, I’m here. How are you doing today? (That today is valuable. It’s a manageable chunk, and narrows down the scope of what the answer has to be.) My heart is with you.

If there’s something the person wants to share, just be there. Listen. There’s nothing to fix, just listen.

This has been your Grief Support Public Service Nudge. You may now return to your regular programming.